I offer one on one counselling and therapeutic interventions and helping partners who are suffering from betrayal trauma to heal and I mentor partners in relational healing who are impacted by sexual addiction in their marriages. I have been trained in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model offered by APSATS and it enables me to have a sound foundation for assisting partners in their healing process. Recovery happens in three stages and each stage is vital in the recovery process.
My training helps me to understand the three stages of recovery from betrayal trauma to be:
Safety & Stabilization
Remembrance and mourning
Very often partners are being pathologized for not getting well rather than looking at what is going on in the relationship that she still doesn’t feel safe. Treatment-induced trauma occurs when the partner is blamed for her not getting better when she still is not safe in the relationship. It is important for the partner to feel safe and understood.
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk confirms this “Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.” (p.97”
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Please contact me if you want me to support you in your recovery from betrayal trauma and to understand yourself better and how to deal with lies, narcissistic behaviour of the addict in your life, what gaslighting is and how to deal with guilt and blame shifting.