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Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal - by Dr. Sheri Keffer
Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out.
Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.
Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.
Moving Beyond Betrayal : The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts - by Vicki Tidwell Palmer
Partners experience dire consequences as a result of being in a relationship with someone suffering from any of the many manifestations of addiction and especially compulsive sexual behaviour. They are at risk of personal harm, being affected not only by the emotional, financial and relational consequences of addiction, but, also, and especially in the case of compulsive sexual behaviour, by deep, personal betrayal and potential exposure to dangerous sexually transmitted diseases. Partners must be armed with information and tools for self-care and self-protection as they navigate through the difficult and painful process of discovery, disclosure and beyond. In other words, they need boundaries.
This is the first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behaviour that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth.
This is the first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behaviour that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth.
Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed - by Debra Laaser
For any woman dealing with the fallout of infidelity, this sensitive and practical guide offers proven tools to help you make wise and empowering decisions as you deal with your husband's sexual betrayal.
If you have been devastated by your husband's sexual betrayal--whether an isolated incident or a long-term pattern of addiction--you don't have to live as a victim. If you choose to stay in your marriage, you have options other than punishing, tolerating, or ignoring your spouse; in fact, extraordinary growth awaits a woman willing to deal with the pain of her husband's struggles with sexual purity. Even if your spouse will not participate in a program for healing, you can change your own life in powerful and permanent ways.
If you have been devastated by your husband's sexual betrayal--whether an isolated incident or a long-term pattern of addiction--you don't have to live as a victim. If you choose to stay in your marriage, you have options other than punishing, tolerating, or ignoring your spouse; in fact, extraordinary growth awaits a woman willing to deal with the pain of her husband's struggles with sexual purity. Even if your spouse will not participate in a program for healing, you can change your own life in powerful and permanent ways.
The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: Guidance through the Five Stages of Healing from Abandonment, Heartbreak, and Loss - by Susan Anderson
One day everything is fine. The next, you find yourself without everything you took for granted. Love has turned sour. The people you depended on have let you down. You feel you’ll never love again.
But there is a way out. In The Abandonment Recovery Workbook, psychotherapist and abandonment expert Susan Anderson explores the seemingly endless pain of heartbreak and shows readers how to break free—whether the heartbreak comes from divorce, a breakup, a death, or the loss of friendship, health, a job, or a dream.
But there is a way out. In The Abandonment Recovery Workbook, psychotherapist and abandonment expert Susan Anderson explores the seemingly endless pain of heartbreak and shows readers how to break free—whether the heartbreak comes from divorce, a breakup, a death, or the loss of friendship, health, a job, or a dream.
Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse - by Shannon Thomas LCSW
Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people. Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse. Healing from Hidden Abuse walks the reader through each of the six recovery stages researched and developed by the author. The stages are Despair, Education, Awakening, Boundaries, Restoration, and Maintenance. A guided Personal Reflections journal is included in the back of the book to help the reader go deeper in their application of the six stages of recovery.
The Body Keeps the Score - Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma - by Bessel Van Der Kolk
A pioneering researcher transforms our understanding of trauma and offers a bold new paradigm for healing in this New York Times Science bestseller.
Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world's foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers' capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments-from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga-that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain's natural neuroplasticity.
Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world's foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers' capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments-from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga-that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain's natural neuroplasticity.
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress - by Dr Gabor Maté
Drawing on deep scientific research and Dr Gabor Maté’s acclaimed clinical work, When the Body Says No provides the answers to critical questions about the mind-body link – and the role that stress and our emotional makeup play in an array of common diseases.
When the Body Says No:
- Explores the role of the mind-body link in conditions and diseases such as arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease, irritable bowel syndrome and multiple sclerosis.
- Shares dozens of enlightening case studies and stories, including those of people such as Lou Gehrig (ALS), Betty Ford (breast cancer), Ronald Reagan (Alzheimer’s), Gilda Radner (ovarian cancer) and Lance Armstrong (testicular cancer)
- Reveals ‘The Seven A’s of Healing’: principles in healing and the prevention of illness from hidden stress.
When the Body Says No:
- Explores the role of the mind-body link in conditions and diseases such as arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease, irritable bowel syndrome and multiple sclerosis.
- Shares dozens of enlightening case studies and stories, including those of people such as Lou Gehrig (ALS), Betty Ford (breast cancer), Ronald Reagan (Alzheimer’s), Gilda Radner (ovarian cancer) and Lance Armstrong (testicular cancer)
- Reveals ‘The Seven A’s of Healing’: principles in healing and the prevention of illness from hidden stress.
Stop Sex Addiction: Real Hope, True Freedom for Sex Addicts and Partners - by Milton S Magness
Compulsive sexual behaviour, or sex addiction, is often difficult to face. Sex addiction results in countless negative consequences and hurts many people, leading to the loss of marriages, families and careers. There is hope because sex addiction is treatable. Through hard work and a vigorous recovery program, it is possible to bring this destructive behaviour to a close.
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope - by Leslie Vernick
You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit.
For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counselling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse.
For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counselling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse.
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It - by Leslie Vernick
Leslie Vernick, counsellor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools.
Lord I Just Want to Be Happy - by Leslie Vernick
Counsellor and author Leslie Vernick has discovered that many people pray, "Lord, I just want to be happy!" With candour, Leslie reveals that readers don't need new circumstances but a new perspective to discover true happiness. With biblical insight, Leslie guides readers to take simple steps as they... recognize and change habits that, day by day, keep them from experiencing happiness make good choices and learn from mistakes without beating themselves up develop the skills that enable them to let go of negative and painful emotions more quickly transform difficult circumstances so they can live with gratitude, joy, and purpose Application questions help readers work godly thinking, as well as healthy skills and habits, into their lives and hearts. They'll discover that, even if nothing changes in their circumstances, their inner chains can be broken and they can go free...into a new path of real hope and happiness.
How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong - by Leslie Vernick
There are no perfect spouses or marriages but there is an unexpected blessing in an imperfect marriage. Right in the midst of a marital conflict you have the opportunity to become more like Christ by responding wisely when wronged and forgiving when angry or irritated. A good marriage is hard work but as you yield your life and will to God, your marriage will be an opportunity to become increasingly holy.
Real Hope, True Freedom: Understanding and Coping with Sex Addiction - by Milton S Magness
Covering a wide variety of topics for anyone who wants to understand sex addiction and the process of recovery, this comprehensive volume addresses the different manifestations and misperceptions of this disabling disorder. From how sex addiction impacts the brain, sex addiction risk factors, and when sex addiction co-occurs with other mental health disorders, to the barriers to getting help/treatment, information and resources specific to the needs of the partners of sex addicts, the process of treatment, the process of recovery for both individuals and couples. Included are tips for relationship rebuilding, re-establishing intimacy, healthy sexuality, and relapse prevention tools and strategies. The book is, in part, structured in an FAQ-style format to address frequently asked questions.
Living From The Heart Jesus Gave You - by E. James Wilder, James G. Friesen, Anne M. Bierling, Rick Koepcke, Maribeth Poole
The Life Model is a unifying approach to ministries of counseling, recovery, pastoral care, prayer ministry, deliverance, inner healing, child rearing, body life and health. Substance abuse recovery programs internationally are guided by the Life Model's five principles. Because the Life Model develops strong maturity, it is widely used as a church model, particularly where people must face suffering. Missions have adopted the Life Model for restoring hurt missionary children. Almost every major ministry dealing with trauma and abuse in the USA uses the Life Model as part of their teaching. This new version now includes study questions at the end of each chapter as well as many other bonuses
Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom from Sexual Addiction: The Essential Guide for Beginning Recovery & Preventing Relapse - by Milton S. Magness
Genuine healing is available to women and men who seek to restore their integrity and live in continuous sexual sobriety. Through a thirty-day approach, Milton Magness, D. Minn., prepares readers for long-term recovery with essential advice on how to cope with isolation, dishonesty, and secrecy; what to expect from Twelve Step meetings, therapy, and sponsors; how to deal with the relapse; and a concise thirty-day guide to healing from sexual addiction.
To Be Told: Know your Story, Shape your Future Paperback – by Dan Allender PhD
Would you willingly overlook clear direction from God that speaks directly to you and where you are in life right now? God's guidance is near at hand. He is not only your Authority, he is also your Author. As God writes the stories of your life, he uses your past to open up your future. It is your privilege to listen to your own story so you can live boldly for the sake of the Greatest Story, the good news of Jesus Christ. God reveals himself to you---and to others---through the story he has written in your life. In this insightful and compelling book, Dr. Dan Allender shows you how to read the stories of your life. He helps you understand the meaning that God has written into every detail of who you are. As a result, you can share your story with others and listen to their story, revealing unique aspects of God's hand at work. Starting today, you can find deeper meaning in your story---a story To Be Told.
Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back - by Stephen Arterburn, Jason B. Martinkus
Pairing the wisdom of Martinkus's personal experience with biblical insights and real-world counselling advice from Arterburn, this book provides a unique perspective on what it takes to rebuild trust after sexual betrayal or pornography addiction. You'll learn how to establish transparency and accountability, demonstrate honesty and integrity, make meaningful restitution, and seek forgiveness.
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal Audible Logo Audible Audiobook – Unabridged – by Barbara Steffens, Randye Kaye (Narrator), Marsha Means
Sexual addictions and compulsive sexual behaviour are growing societal problems, with as many as three to six present of the world population affected. Your Sexually Addicted Partner shatters the stigma and shame that millions of men and women carry when their partners are sexually addicted. They receive little empathy for their pain, which means they suffer alone, often shocked and isolated by the trauma. Barbara Steffens' ground-breaking new research shows that partners are not co-dependents, but post-traumatic stress victims, while Marsha Means' personal experience provides insights, strategies, and critical steps to recognize, deal with, and heal partners of sexually addicted relationships. First-hand accounts and stories reveal the impact of this addiction on survivors' lives. Chapters end with "On a Personal Note" questions and propose new paths that lead from trauma to empowerment, health, and hope.