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BOUNDARIES GROUP

Common questions I am  getting are:
- Why do I need boundaries?
- How do I know if I am using healthy boundaries or if I am controlling the person next to me?
- Some women from the faith community ask if Boundaries are Biblical?
In her book, “Moving Beyond Betrayal. The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts” Vicki Tidwell Palmer says:
 
“Your greatest source of strength and safety comes from your practise of good self-care through the use of effective boundaries—knowing how they work, how to create them, and what to do when they’re broken.”
The devastation sexual betrayal brings to your life can leave you feeling like a helpless victim with no control over your situation. Being part of this group discussion, you, the partner will be supported and have an opportunity to share, receive and respond in a safe place. Honest and vulnerable interactions between members and the facilitator dissolve the isolation, otherness and shame we are struggling with.
-You will evaluate the health of your relationship with the addict, and change unhealthy marital dynamics.
-You will learn how to create good and healthy boundaries.
-You will gain insight into your reality and how to own it.
-You will learn to identify your needs and wants, and how to communicate them in a healthy way.
-You will discover you have personal power, and learn to use it to eradicate victimhood and stop the chaotic dance.
-You will end ultimatums and unsuccessful attempts at control by learning to make requests that lead to clarity and bring resolutions.
-You will learn how to deal with broken boundaries.
Join us for a group discussion every week, and learn skills that can transform all your relationships, including your marriage if you are still with your partner, and lead to healthier communication and a happier lifestyle.
I have been running this group since 2015  as a coach for https://betrayaltraumatohealingandjoy.com/support-groups/
This group meets every week for 1½ hours for 12 weeks.
Starting date:  When the group is full
 
$45 a week for 12 weeks = $540.
Pay in full or 3 monthly payments of $180.00.
Or $90 twice a month for 3 months!
 
It requires the purchase of Vicki Palmer’s Moving Beyond Betrayal available on Amazon.
 
NOTE: ALL TIMES ARE DISPLAYED IN NEW YORK TIME ZONE.
For questions, please contact carin@acircleofjoy.com.

WHAT PEOPLE SAY

I just finished the Boundaries course with Carin Dusse and a small group of women. Carin helped me to get my bearings during a very difficult time in my life.  Her wise, biblical advice and counsel coupled with her vast experience encouraged me to be strong and courageous and decide upon boundaries that are necessary in my marriage.  Each week I learned and was encouraged.  I would highly recommend the Boundaries course and will ever be thankful for Carin's teaching.   2020

I gained new tools, new friends, and a much deeper understanding of healthy boundaries than I would have been able to get from reading a book alone.  I appreciated Carin’s wisdom and experience, and in particular her faith based approach to boundaries. The course was practical, with feedback and discussions, a good group dynamic, and it felt safe and comfortable.  I recommend this course to those just starting out, as well as those looking to go a step deeper in developing healthy boundaries.   2020

A participant in the most recent Boundaries group said: "“I have just completed the Boundaries & Triggers group, and wow did it open up my eyes! I’ve done two groups through A Circle of Joy

previously to heal and recover from my husbands addiction, but this group was for ME. I learned so much about myself, and had glimpses into my past that has brought me to this spot in life- having no concept of ‘boundaries’. I am happy to have gone through these 12 weeks as the teachings are impacting my marriage, my parenting, and my life as a whole. I am learning to set boundaries (and adhere to them) to empower, encourage and enforce my own Self Care. Thank you for this group!!”"  

This class has empowered and helped me to examine my individual situation with reality and clarity that I have not had before. In a concise, personal way I have discovered the effective tools to enact and champion my growth, as well as, others in our group with the skillful coaching of coach Carin. 

I found it beyond beneficial to know also when I am on the right track and when I need to step it up. By asking for what I need I realize boundaries and self-care are indeed actions -not merely pointless words of unmet expectations. Most of all, I am worthy of being treated well and I have the right to live in safety and in integrity no matter what he chooses to do.

I have learned that boundary setting and the additional knowledge I’ve gained are empowering and to be used constructively (without demands or ultimatums.) This, in essence, will reflect respect for myself, how I wish to be treated and give respect to others, ultimately renewed hope for brighter days ahead.

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